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The medical establsihment is not often condusive to a woman who wants to breastfeeed or have a natural birth with all the things they throw in the way and does not provide a good support network.
I had a c-section after baby 1 was three weeks late and 2 days on pitocin left me onoly 2 cm. - the only way they would let me proceed was with the internal fetal monitor and I told them they were not going to be screwing anything into my babies skull. I agree 100% on that stinking montitoring (external) and evil pitocin. I would turn the damned display away from me and the nurse kept turning it around so I could *see* my contractions. Give me a break!!!
Baby 2 again was 3 weeks late and I did castor oil to force labor but then it stopped which forced c-section 2 but, once again.......so I understand things not going exactly like you like. Even though I repeatedly said that my grandmother typically was 1 month over AND the fact that my babies showed no signs of being post mature (other than they were both almost 9 pounders) and had no fetal distress, 3 weeks was the cut off and they won't even let people go that far now. With number 2 we had found a doctor who would do a VBAC and also went through having her turned from breech to vertex (after the excercises did not work).....but alas. Thankfully the breastfeeding did work out both times (Thanks to my Granmother and some friends who were there for me, no thanks to the doctors)
My oldest daughter had pre-eclampsia with her first and did had to have an epidural -- he rlabor was impaired by having to lay on her back to control the blood pressure and they gave her pitocin which amplified the pain.
Her 2nd was 100% natural - no issues at all and she walked around until she was nearly in transition - and it was amazing to watch. Without the drugs, she was in an almost animal like trance (think alligators) with an un earthly moan and I was amazed at how the baby came out and was actually interacting with her father right after birth. (Mimicing toungue movements and cooing). I had never seen such an alert baby -- (who, BTW, is advanced in every way and was walking at 8 months).
Things don't always go perfect but we do what we can and that is all anyone can expect. I resented those who implied that I was a failure because I had 2 c-sections so I know there is some pain associated with things not going how visualized. You have to sometimes make informed on the fly decisions and your goal is to have a healthy baby which overides the desrire to have the ultimate birthing experience.
The best thing we did do and gave our daughter was Bradley classes instead of Lamaze. I was impressed with how SHE took control of her own birthing process after that and told the nurses how it was going to be the 2nd time around.